Hi Best Friend,
Today would have been my 12th Wedding Anniversary. September 16, 2007, was one of the happiest days of my life. I married who I felt was the answer to all of my prayers. He would bring me flowers “just because,” play basketball with my son and the neighborhood kids, share his fries with me without fussing (even though I refused to order some of my own), have tea parties with my daughter AND more!
But on the day we got married he removed the mask he was wearing. He became controlling and manipulative as well as physically, verbally, emotionally, sexually, economically, and spiritually abusive. Now it didn’t happen all at once. Abuse never does. It just slowly and insidiously oozed its way into the cracks and crevices of our marriage.
Our marriage ended four years and fours days later on September 20, 2011, when I asked for a divorce. That is the number one thing you should not do as an abused woman. My ex-husband felt like his life was falling out of control and did the one thing he knew was best to try to maintain control – he shot me multiple times and shot my 10 year old daughter too.
The good news is we both lived by God’s grace and our lives have been a celebration of God’s favor ever since. My children and I have had our fair share of ups and downs since then, but I tell you what…God is still AMAZING and He is in the miracle making business everyday. You just need to look for His blessings.
If you find yourself in an abusive situation or you just want to talk to someone, don’t be afraid to reach out to get some help. Just pinkie promise you will not leave without a safety plan, ok?
P.S. On Friday, I will share more about our story and will officially celebrate EIGHT years of life with one of my favorite DV related activities. Stay tuned!
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