Resilience Blog

The Art of Self-Care: Healthy Habits for Your Well-Being

I am in New York for an event for People magazine and Investigation Discovery Channel because I was named their Everyday Hero for November 2016.

The last two days made me reflect on the importance of self care.  Although I am here on “business”, I said it was important for me to be able to build in some fun in as well.  Even though I woke up at 6 every morning to do some work, I made sure I prayed every morning before beginning anything, took an extra nap each day, at tons of fruit with my meals, walked all over downtown NYC- visiting places like Chelsea Market and the High Line, drank plenty of water, and I even had a makeover done! What are you doing to ensure you take care of yourself?

As defined by me, self care is any activity we do that takes care of our physical, mental, spiritual and emotional well being. So, let me help you begin or continue your journey to self care. 

SELF CARE helps you effectively treat compassion fatigue which is  absorbing the emotional pain of others.  It also helps you deal with stress, and helps you to reset and rejuvenate. So how can you do it too?

You have you take care of your PHYSIOLOGICAL self care needs. Do you eat balanced meals, drink plenty of water, take vitamins, eat several times a day (at least every 3 hours), eat a combination of at least 5 fruits and vegetables a day, avoid skipping meals, get at least 6 to 7 hours of sleep, reduce screen time before sleeping, limit social media intake to 15 minutes in the morning and 15 minutes in the evening, set a night time routine, AND get in at least 30 minutes of activity a day?  Don’t raise your hands all at once, LOL!  Pick one of these things you are going to start right away to start to take care of your physiological needs.

You have to take care of your BEHAVIORAL and COGNITIVE self care needs.  Do you ask for help, delegate tasks, pray and meditate for at least 30 minutes before you start your day, make a list of fun activities and do them, find humor in situations, set healthy boundaries, give and receive affection, schedule mini retreats such as mani-pedis, massages, or 30 minute power naps? Pick ONE of these things you are going to start right away to take care of your behavioral and cognitive self care needs.

Take your time today to create an action plan of success for your own self care. Take those two things you picked and begin to work on them little by little every day.  Check in here and let me know how you are doing on your journey to wellness.

While you’re out here saving the world, it is important to do somethings to reset, recharge, and rejuvenate in order to build your RESILIENCE!





Born of Violence – Triumph Over Tragedy: Living Out God’s Purpose

My hands are shaking as I share “my baby” with the world. After 5 long years of writing, it will soon be here!

Born of Violence is the story of how I entered a road of abuse as a child and teenager and how that road led me to the fateful morning where my life and my child’s life could have been taken…but God!

All the pain, tears, trials and tribulations birthed something greater in me and my family. The lessons in resilience we learned are featured here so you know that you too can Triumph over Tragedy!

Thank you for taking this journey with me! Pre-sales will be coming soon!  Stay tuned!

Welcome to the Resilience Blog

Hi Readers,

Welcome to the Resilience Blog, the blog and newsroom for Kimya Motley LLC, an organization dedicated to educating the family about healthy relationships and advocacy through speaking, books, and a host of fun, hands-on, research based classes, seminars, and community events.

In this blog, I will share my life with you, help you identify and tackle issues that affect the family to include domestic and dating violence, abuse, advocacy, education and a host of other issues that build or destroy the family structure, and best practices about how to bounce back after tragedy, so you can expect other topics to pop up along the way!

I will describe tools that are relevant and practical, along with how others (including myself) have been successful using them.  Here we will build a culture of celebrating family and resilience!

I will also share with you timely articles and events related to those topics. I do not consider myself an expert on any one topic, but I have experienced these events and have made a promise to not only have my family thrive after tragedy but to help others “kick the butt” of injustice and tragedy.  My pain has birthed my purpose and it is my prayer that I can help you to do the same.

You are more than welcome to respond, add comments, or suggestions.  I only ask that we keep our comments relevant and respectful to the other readers and conversations taking place. I assure you that you will have a safe space to learn and grow with my blog, so anyone that creates an atmosphere that is not conducive to our culture of respect, I will quickly remove any comments that are deemed offensive, disrespectful, or annoying (like chain letters, marketing, and spam – I would rather clean my toilet with my toothbrush and brush my eyebrows with it than read those things!  Yikes!).

Please do not post anything private to the blog.  I am MORE than happy about helping you or providing resources for your family, (it’s what I do) but send me a message so others will not see your personal business.

Thank you for visiting my little website and reading my blog.  I hope this website encourages you to overcome any obstacles that come your way.  There is an OVERCOMER programmed in your DNA and it is my personal goal to help you express that inner Super Hero!

Can’t wait to connect with you!


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